Today I find myself being called to stand up and own my experience and ability as a leading behavioural coach and F*** I feel as ready as I did last weekend abseiling for the first time in 26 years, BUT I’m going to employ the exact same strategy here as I did on top of the cliff…believe in myself, do as I’m told and step off the bloody cliff….easy right!!
So here goes…
I’m going to start with a story from the weekend to describe something that so many of us high achieving Aussies unconsciously battle every day, especially the women!
So on Sunday, we went horse riding, simple enough but here’s the thing, for the first time in my life when asked at one of these trail riding places “do you have any experience?” I was honest “Yes,” I said, the lady still looking at her clipboard says “how many hours approximately?” I say “Oh 30 years”…she looks up, “What sort of riding?” she...
My forty something friends out there, I have a question for you…
Why do you think you have to navigate your forty something roller coaster (growth opportunity, midlife crisis, life explosion, whatever you want to call it) alone?
There is this huge misconception that because we live in a time where we are surrounded by personal development books, programs, speakers and endless resources that you SHOULD sort this sh*t out by yourself.
People believe that by reading a few books that you suddenly become an expert.
Well, I call bullshit!!
Here’s the thing, do you know what a good behavioural coach actually does?
We expand your unconscious mind, your internal representation of the world, we literally change your reality. We do this through methods, models and strategies that usually you are completely unaware we are using and ultimately take what is unconscious to you and therefore difficult to change and make it conscious.
And this is where the magic happens....
Did you know that there is a growth phase around 40?
I know right…why does no one talk about this?
At forty you’re transitioning into a new version of yourself, you’re going through a rebirth and that’s exciting OR TERRIFYING.
I bet you’ve heard of the midlife crisis well it’s the same thing except our society has labelled it as a bad thing when in fact it’s a good thing and I’m here to tell you this is YOUR time to rediscover yourself and what lights you up.
I bet you’re thinking ” Yes but Emma BUT I have all this to take care of work, money, kids, relationship, family, getting to the gym, eating well, not drinking so much and the rest of it, I know I need to do something to change the way I feel but I just don’t have the time”. The truth is it’s not all going to fall apart if you focus on yourself for a while.
The thing about being in this life stage is if you resist it and try to manage your way...
Why are there so many unhappy, disillusioned, stressed out and grumpy people out there today?
Why is stress the number one health issue in the corporate sector today even though everyone is talking about meditation, eating well and exercise?
Why is it so hard to motivate and inspire great teams and leadership right now?
The answer to all these questions is one thing…People are completely disconnected from or too afraid to be who they are!!
We have created a culture, at least in the western world where publicly shaming and criticising others is ok, in fact more than that it’s championed by certain parts of the mainstream media, this has taught people that it’s a good thing to judge others and share your negative opinion with whomever will listen even if unsolicited or with no basis in fact or value.
This behaviour has had a damning effect on our self worth, suicide rates are rising and our children are suffering from anxiety and depression at younger and younger...
Building better teams is all about empowering people to be better versions of themselves, to take responsibility for their results and giving them the opportunity to experience what they are really capable of.
If you have children you’ll know that you can tell them what to do until you’re blue in the face but they won’t do what you want them to do but the moment you drop the F bomb in front of them it’s the only thing they can say for the next three days, well the reason for this is because children do not do what we tell them, they model who we are being to learn how to be in their world and your team is exactly the same.
If you’re frustrated and tired of fixing ‘problems’ that are not yours or asking for things to be done and getting nothing then this is the article for you.
When you’re managing people the person you are ‘being’ will influence the entire teams results, if you’re not taking responsibility neither...